Certainty is a colonial construct
There is no universal code. Stop expecting you will discover the formula to make it all work. This could be the only way of making things work. I say this without certainty, because look where certainty has gotten us so far. Allow your intuition to live, and you might find you're loving yourself. And loving yourself brings the kind of clarity we need. But we have to distinguish between clarity and certainty. I say this without certainty.